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Anatomy of the Stalker: Profiling Those Who Spy, Pursue, and Harass

  • Writer: Caroline Hébert
    Caroline Hébert
  • Jan 19
  • 5 min read

Obsessive stalkers represent a category of individuals who are both underestimated and potentially very dangerous. Their behavior often exists in a gray zone between socially tolerated relational discomfort and overt violent crime. This ambiguity contributes to the early trivialization of warning signs, even though stalking trajectories frequently follow a clear pattern of escalation.

 

This article presents an analysis of the stalking phenomenon—its definition, main typologies, underlying psychological dynamics, escalation stages toward violence, and risk indicators useful for victims, relatives, and professionals alike.

 

What Is Stalking?

 

Stalking, or obsessive criminal harassment, refers to a series of intrusive, repeated, and unwanted behaviors that cause the victim to feel fear, insecurity, or distress. These acts may include persistent attempts at contact, following, surveillance, unsolicited messages, and implicit or explicit threats.

 

The central element is not the severity of a single act, but rather the repetition and persistence over time. Stalking often unfolds over months or even years and can gradually evolve from seemingly innocuous gestures (gifts, frequent calls, “romantic” messages) to serious threats or physical assault.

 

In the early stages, people around the victim tend to minimize each act when viewed in isolation. The victim, however, usually perceives very early on that something is wrong. This discrepancy delays recognition of the danger and intervention.

 

Typologies: How Are Stalkers Classified?

 

Several research and practice-based models allow for the classification of stalkers. Although they differ in terminology, they generally converge in their conclusions.

 

The Love-Obsession Stalker

 

In this profile, the victim either does not know or barely knows the stalker. The latter may have developed an obsession with a store employee, a distant colleague, a neighbor, a public figure, or even a stranger encountered briefly.

 

The relationship is purely imaginary. The stalker interprets a minimal—or nonexistent—sign as proof of intimacy or mutual affection, constructing a complex fantasy relationship completely disconnected from reality.

 

These individuals often experience profound social isolation and have little or no romantic experience. The imagined relationship becomes a way to compensate for feelings of insignificance or inner emptiness.

 

The Relationship-Obsessed Stalker (or Simple Obsession)

 

Here, the victim is an ex-partner, a current partner, or someone with whom the stalker had a real relationship. This profile covers a large proportion of domestic and post-separation violence cases.

 

The breakup is experienced as an intolerable blow to the ego and the stalker’s sense of control. They already know concrete details about the victim’s life—routines, social circle, frequented places, and vulnerabilities.

 

Research shows that this category is statistically more violent. Death threats, weapon use, and the rapid shift to physical aggression are more common.

 

The RECON Model and Clinical Typologies

 


The RECON (Relationship and Context-Based) model classifies stalkers according to the nature of the prior relationship—intimate, acquaintance, stranger, or public figure—and highlights that ex-partners represent the group with the highest risk of violence and lethality.

 

Clinically, Mullen and colleagues have identified five main profiles: the Rejected, the Intimacy Seeker, the Incompetent, the Resentful, and the Predatory stalker. Despite their differences, these types share recurring traits: personality or substance use disorders, primitive defense mechanisms, intense jealousy, and profound attachment difficulties.

 

Psychological Characteristics and Internal Dynamics

 

Contrary to common belief, obsessive stalkers do not act chaotically or randomly. Their behavior follows a coherent internal logic—profoundly dysfunctional, but consistent.

 

Loneliness and Relational Deficiencies

 

Many stalkers live socially impoverished lives with almost nonexistent emotional networks. Their days revolve around solitary activities—television, video games, the internet—and obsessive fantasies.

 

The absence of healthy relational experiences fosters an idealized, unrealistic concept of love, where the other person is seen less as an autonomous individual and more as an object for psychological repair.

 

Narcissistic Fragility and the Need for Control

 

Shame, jealousy, a sense of failure, and hypersensitivity to rejection create fertile ground for stalking behaviors. Harassment becomes a way to restore power and self-worth. A common cognitive pattern among stalkers can be summarized as: “If you fear me, you can’t ignore me.” The victim’s fear becomes a substitute for connection.

 

A Sense of Mission

 

For some individuals, obsessive behavior takes on an almost ideological dimension. Aggression—or even murder—is perceived as the logical outcome of a personal mission. From a criminological perspective, obsessive harassment represents a form of mastery behavior—the goal is not the relationship itself, but control over the other person, or their destruction if the fantasy of fusion fails.


Studies on assassins of public figures reveal striking consistencies: detailed journals, systematic surveillance, and identification with prior violent figures.

 

Escalation Cycle: From Seduction to Violence

 

Most stalking situations follow a recognizable cycle, though the rate of progression varies significantly.

 

  1. Seduction Phase


The stalker multiplies gestures of attention—gifts, letters, repeated calls, attempts at reconciliation. In post-relationship contexts, this phase often appears as the “return of the good partner,” marked by apologies and promises of change.


The victim’s refusal is not seen as a stop signal but as an obstacle to overcome.

 

  1. Intimidation and Threats


As resistance increases, the tone hardens—accusations, jealousy, closer surveillance, direct or indirect threats. Suicidal talk or threats aimed at loved ones are used to maintain pressure.

 

  1. Violent Acting Out



When the fantasies of reconciliation or domination collapse, frustration can turn into serious, sometimes lethal violence. A triggering event is often identifiable—final separation, the victim’s new relationship, perceived loss of status, or humiliation.


Research shows a strong correlation between stalking and later physical or sexual violence, especially in domestic violence contexts.

 

Risk Profiles and Warning Signs

 

The goal is not clinical diagnosis but assessing danger level.

 

Perpetrator-related factors

  • Prior violence or threats

  • Personality disorders

  • Substance-related disorders

  • Escalation in tactics (from messages to visits, from threats to weapons)

 

Relational factors

  • Intimate or former intimate link

  • Privileged access to the victim’s life and routines

 

Victim-related factors

  • Expressed fear and hypervigilance

  • Depressive, anxious, or post-traumatic symptoms

 

It is crucial to note that the victim’s level of fear is a reliable indicator—in the vast majority of cases, the more threatened they feel, the higher the objective risk.

 

Prevention and Intervention Strategies

 

Systematic Documentation

 

Keep a log of incidents and preserve messages, screenshots, and physical evidence to demonstrate repetition and escalation.

 

Breaking Isolation

 

Informing relatives, employers, or relevant institutions reduces opportunities for contact and increases collective vigilance.

 

Technological Security

 

Strengthen digital account security, limit the sharing of personal information online, and check for potential surveillance tools (GPS trackers, monitoring apps, etc.).

 

Integrated Legal and Safety Approach

 

Judicial procedures should be coupled with concrete safety plans: adapting routines, secure housing, cooperation with neighbors, and awareness training to recognize warning signs.

 

Conclusion

 

Every stalking situation is a window of intervention before potential escalation into serious violence. Early recognition of obsessive dynamics, relational profiles, and risk factors can sometimes interrupt a path that would otherwise appear inevitable.

 

Taking stalking seriously from its earliest signs is not an overreaction—it's an essential measure of prevention.

 

For those who wish to delve deeper into the topic, consider consulting the following references :

 

  • Mohandie, K., Meloy, J. R., McEllistrem, M. T., et al. (2006). The RECON typology of stalking: Reliability and validity based on a large sample of North American stalkers. Journal of Forensic Sciences, 51(1), 147-155. Disponible sur PubMed: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16423242/​

 

 

 

 

 

 


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